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Bernice's avatar

You definitely haven't wasted 13 minutes of your life, Donna! Wow, what a meaty video. So much to chew over. And just to keep the clunky eating/food metaphor going – I nearly choked when you mentioned apologising to the person who hurt you. That really got my hackles up, so I guess I'm not quite there yet. I feel like I've been stuck at step 5 in your list for years now – I recognise that forgiveness is healthy (necessary, even) and I WANT to do it, but I just can't make that final leap. Next time I go to the loo I'll imagine dragging my dad and my ex in there with me, and maybe that will be the final push I need! 😂

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

Ha ha ha Love this Bernice. Nothing like sharing the loo with your dad and ex to inspire you towards forgiveness. Keep us posted xx

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Tabitha Moses's avatar

More welcome wisdom from you, Donna. <3

I can't tell you how thankful I am that I experienced The Bridge - writing those letters was transformative. As a therapist-in-training I now get to share your work with others, which feels great. Thank you. x

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

Thanks Tabitha. Lovely to hear that. Big Love xx

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Dawn's avatar

Your work on forgiveness and the need to grieve in order to be able to find forgiveness, blew my mind and my tendencies for “neck up forgiveness” out of the water……. Forever grateful for your work and you.

I am committed to working my grief work and forgiveness muscle and to living a life filled with energy and joy. Thank you 😘

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

yay to this. thanks dawn xx

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Josie  Adams's avatar

Thank you Donna … needed to hear this today

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Emma Sims's avatar

I loved this Donna I’ve been trying to work through forgiveness a lot. This rang so true in the head heart space. I’m going to write the letter from the spirit and also do the pebble exercise. Thank you so much Emma x

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

you're so welcome Emma. Let us know how you get on xx

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

you are so welcome Josie xx

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Tina Walsh's avatar

‘Neck up forgiveness’ - what a revelation that was when I first heard you speak about it! That grieving part of forgiveness is a right pain (in real life!) Thank you as always and a brilliant reminder. Much Love xxx

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

Grieving is a real pain but then so is living half a life. Not forgiving steals our energy and our joy. Worth the price. Loving you xxx

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Nicola Richardson's avatar

Brilliant as always x

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

thanks Nicola xx

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Elaine Bell's avatar

Thank you Donna. Your work and wisdom on Forgiveness truly changed my life. I felt that I’d go to my grave not forgiving my mother. When I did, through working with you, I was relieved of so much pain and found in its place all the love that I hadn’t received or been able to give. In addition to that the weight of carrying that pain lived in my body for decades, I was morbidly obese and felt like I was slowly dying. I’m 5 stone lighter now and since joining you on The Awakening retreat where we got to practice the rituals around forgiveness my life has become fuller in so many ways. Our bodies really do hold the score and mine was a perfect example of that. My big

takeaway from listening to you today is…. Shock, horror, I may also have to write a letter of apology!!! Thank you for that little gift of accountability Donna 😉

Much love always, Elaine xx

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

beautiful Elaine. Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing xx

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Melissa Davis's avatar

I think I might find the answer in your book! Have just purchased!

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

yep! and thank you xx

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Melissa Davis's avatar

Thank you for this insight Donna. I have recognised a grief within me without knowing it was part of the healing process. A question please…is it possible to forgive someone and still choose to not have them in your life?

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

100%. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Unless it's right for the individuals involved. I forgave my father completely, I feel in fact beyond forgiveness...but I still do not have him in my life. Loving boundaries. xx

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Rodrigo Lopez's avatar

Dear Donna,

This is beautiful, brilliant, and Divine.

With deep admiration,

🙏

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Donna Lancaster's avatar

Thanks so much Rodrigo. I'm so glad you are here xx

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Jo Booler's avatar

Fantastic words , thank you .

I have noticed how over time , as I have done the continuous work on my self , how I have sometimes surprised myself as forgiveness has snuck in unannounced .

The other interesting thing I have noticed around forgiveness is the resistance from those around me . As If I am somehow in need of reminding of what has happened. Or that the forgiver is somehow weak. All interesting. X

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